"but all you'll ever be is mean"

I very crazy much dislike mean people. I know I've been mean in my life on more than one occasion but I'm not a meanhearted person. I try and do nice things and I try and be nice. I just get so tired of people who don't try to be nice like it's just beneath them to make an effort to be friendly. bah. also people who whisper mean things about other people to their husbands (yes we all do and we're all guilty) PLEASE for the sake of everyone involved, it's better to say it quietly so that people only think you're being mean instead of confirming the fact that you're saying mean things about their child like "man look at him, if that isn't birth control I don't know what is". People who walk past you saying hello and goodbye to everyone but you. I dealt with mean people in high school, but it's crazy how many more you encounter in the real world.
On the other hand, I have been blessed with some amazing friends. As I've grown older I've learned really fast what that word really means. I live a ways away from where I grew up and I love that I figured out the difference between being stuck trying and trying to get people to care about me, and sticking with the people who really do care! I've realized that there are 3 types of people you should always consider good friends. 1. If someone is taking the time to stay in touch with you, if they ask you about your day or just say a random comment every once in a while, they are your friend. 2. If there are people you find yourself thinking about and wanting to know how they are doing, wanting to be involved in their everyday life, caring about relationships, their state of being, they are someone you should call a friend and make sure they know how much they mean to you. and 3. the type of person that you haven't seen in ages, you haven't talked to in years, but the minute you see them you get that warm fuzzy smile and you can catch up in an hour and from minute one you're talking like it's been 3 days not 3 years. Those are friends too.

I learned to give up a little on the people who I continuously tried to make plans with that wouldn't and people who I MADE plans with and would cancel on me in the last minute or worse, never cancel at all and just didn't show up. I used to try and try and try to keep a friendship going or try and create a new one with the wrong people. Mean people. and some nice ones too. I just ended up at home crying essentially feeling horrible about myself. No one wants to be my friend. I eventually started trying to figure it out the more I found real friends. I'm always open to more friends. Like I said HERE I really do have this amazing love for most everyone. Even mean people. One of the reasons I love mean people the most is because they taught me to really truly appreciate the amazingness of my good friends. (and you readers!! I love you too!!!!!!!!)

so here's a few of some awesome friends. I have a zillion more but not enough time to put up all the pictures of them so I put up what was easily accessible right away... You know you're my friend :) no hurt feelings!!!!!!!!